Why do we get in our own way and resist change?
What happens when we’ve finally gathered up the courage to change our lives for the better and then something gets in our way, slows us down or ruins our chances for success?
How does that happen to us REPEATEDLY?
Let’s say that you’ve just decided to start on a new meal plan or workout program, and you have all this renewed enthusiasm and motivation!!
We’ve all experienced the rush from that initial burst of motivation: you set out for a few days with incredible energy and success UNTIL….
There’s a conflict in your schedule, you miss out on a few hours of sleep or someone at work/home tempts you with one of the NO-NO items on your meal plan!
You may find that your brain automatically FINDS something else that you deem way more important than YOUR new goals. OH NOOOO!!
Or, perhaps you want to fit in and you forgo your self-care needs and indulge in whatever food that Aunt Sally or your hubby bought especially for you?
Have you used this one, “I’ve been good lately, so I deserve a little extra”, and you completely fall back into the old self-destructive patterns?
Before you know it, your brain quickly reverts to its old ways…. your VERY efficient and well-programmed habits kick right back in and then you are thinking…NOOOO I am sabotaging myself!!
“Like a zombie I walked to the fridge….and again, I got in my own way. “
I’ve seen this time and again with my clients and they often come to me because for help to learn why they get stuck in their own way. Many of them tell me “It’s too hard,” so I help them dig deeper.
They tell me that they’ve got an internal battle going on inside their mind and the message doesn’t get to their body to take action.
When this happens, those automatic, old unconscious, well-programmed habits are primed and send you right back to square one!!
Does this sound like you? Here are some ways that you could be repeating those old mind tricks of getting in your own way.
Punishing yourself with negative self-talk or stories
Falling off track and back into the habits of binge eating, overeating, or depriving yourself
Giving up completely because you feel like a failure
Being so HARD on yourself!!
Feeling comfortable with being uncomfortable
These are the ways that you get in your own way and resist change without you consciously realizing it.
And I KNOW what it feels like to STRUGGLE day in and day out within my own dang self!!
So, what do YOU do when you feel stuck in this cycle?
Learn how to jump-start your way out of self-sabotage to continue on your path.
1. With an attitude of loving curiosity, start by recognizing your patterns of “starting”, sabotaging, and falling off the wagon.
2. Allow yourself to sense, feel and experience any and all of your emotions around this pattern and free-write in your journal about them, or call a friend or schedule a chat with me.
3. Ask yourself, what are you willing to release and let go of those struggles so that you CAN move forwards with your NEW plans, goals, behaviors and habits?
Thank yourself for taking the time to stop and listen in to your intuitive wisdom that KNOWS exactly what YOU need to do to succeed.
Jump on the phone or Zoom with me so I can hear you speaking, because that will help me get a sense of what you are thinking and doing that may be affecting your results.
Looking forward to serving you,