Hands up if you’ve ever been thrown big huge curveballs in life that they knock you right off balance?
Does it take you a while to come back on track after experiencing tremendous amounts of stress?
If you raised your hand, you are not alone.
I’ve been doing this my whole life, having grown up with an abusive, narcissistic parent. Months would go by and life would be all cheery and smooth then BOOM, an emotional explosion would devastate us girls and we would hide and shut down until it was safe to come out.
Over time, I learned to build my resilience, confidence, and skills so that I hid less and regained my footing in life much faster.
I am here to share with you the resources that I’ve learned to come back quickly after each blow by the curveballs and get out of that stressful survival mode with ease and peace.
Would you like to learn how to create consistency in your life when there’s chaos?
Let’s create your own “HOW-TO GUIDE”
I’ve been coaching busy women (and some men), just like you, over the past 10 years and I was hearing the same worries time and again.
During the pandemic, your worries and stress levels went off the charts because you were all forced out of your normal routines and comfort zones!
You had to create a sense of normal; while managing a whole new way of being in the world. Of course, you had to continue doing all of the necessary chores that we adults have to do, even when you didn’t feel like it.
We were ALL in the state of fight-flight-freeze to some degree and it definitely impacted our mental/emotional/physical health.
Many of you even had to endure tragedy and death which are the most impactful stressors on your well-being (my condolences).
Seeing my clients act in alignment with what they really wanted
to do with their time was transformative.
Allow me to offer these simple steps to help YOU create your own How-To Guide.
Have fun with this action step and make it fit your life to stay true to what’s important to YOU.
Consciously setting aside time to express what they wanted and needed was an empowering step. One of my clients was finally able to see that she was always skipping meals and not getting enough downtime.
It was like witnessing a little kid on their birthday because I allowed them to ask for what they wanted. I gave them permission to put their self-care and MIPs (Most Important Priorities) on TOP of their To-Do lists
Some would post their list on their computer screens.
Lots of them created Vision Boards out of this activity.
Placing it somewhere that was visible to them each day ensure that they stayed focused on what they valued most in life.
Having their own “self-care” reminders helped them to feel more focused and in control of their thoughts.
They referenced their lists when planning their days because it helps to keep in mind their most important priorities in life.
And, it also helped them to ease the outside pressures from the world, and say “NO” to those people or invitations that took them away from their list.
I invite YOU to spend quiet, quality time to be still and figure out what you truly need and want in your life.
List all of your Most Important Priorities on a poster board, vision board, or somewhere that calls your attention to what you want to create each day.
Know that you are allowed to feel ease, peace, and happiness xo
Enjoy the process!! I do this every 3 months to ensure that I am staying on track too.
Denise xo
