Are you too hard on yourself? Do you have an inner mean girl judging you all day, stopping you from having fun, trying something new, or buying something you love?
My friend, I say it’s time to call that Inner Mean Girl out on her crap and fire her, for real!
That mean girl is only diminishing your self-worth, self-love, and self-respect, taking away your confidence and ability to trust your unique inner wisdom. It’s time to call her out on her crap!!
If you have an inner mean girl telling you terrible things about yourself, it will stress your system. You won’t feel good. You’ll have aches and pains. You’ll be stifled and unable to move forward.
Life is too precious to let that bully talk you down, so let’s fix that!
Open up the notes section on your phone or journal if you are a writer and follow these 5 simple steps to kick that mean girl to the curb.
1. Pay attention to your thoughts
Pay attention and capture any thoughts, self-talk, or things you would say out loud to yourself. You’ll never be able to stop that Inner Mean Girl if you ignore what she’s saying.
Write it down word for word in your phone or journal. No one is going to see this but you, so don’t hold back.
Those thoughts could be one of these – or something completely different. I’m not good enough. I’m not going to make it. I don’t have time. I’m too old. I’m too short or fat. They are the thoughts that diminish your worth.
2. How do those statements make you feel?
Read over what you wrote.
Notice how those statements make you feel. Are they bringing up any old emotions or something you haven’t liked about yourself for a really long time?
Write all those thoughts and emotions down.
3. Who’s voice is in your head?
Ponder for a moment. Is that really your voice in your head? Is it another person, perhaps your parents, spouse, or someone else?
It’s not uncommon for that Inner Mean Girl not to be you. If it’s not you, it’s going to be even easier to kick her to the curb!
4. Are these statements really true?
When you look through those statements that you just wrote, ask yourself: are they really true? Do you believe them? What evidence do you have in your life that they actually are true?
Most likely, those statements and thoughts are not accurate. Someone else put them there without you knowing.
But it’s time to change them! Kick that Mean Girl out of your mind!
5. Create an empowering statement instead
Spend some time looking at each one of these statements. How can you create an empowering, loving, and caring statement instead?
Pretend you are talking to your baby, pet, little girl, or even your plant.
Say it in such a loving and beautiful way that you start to feel amazing inside yourself. You feel empowered. You feel lit up and healthy!
Once you have those empowering statements, keep repeating them. Hold on to those statements for yourself and look at them daily. The more you repeat them, the sooner you’ll let those Inner Mean Girl statements go.
You are creating new thought patterns in your brain to love yourself!