Are you guilty of holding yourself back from success?
Putting off making your self-care and needs a priority?
Procrastinating on starting a new workout routine or meal plan?
Quitting just when you seem to be making progress or when you finally feel good about yourself?
Using excuses like, “it’s just my bad luck” or “it’s in my genes” when you didn’t get what you wanted?
Yep, that was MY jam and how I lived for about 30 years!
And, If you’re reading this, you most likely understand the above scenarios or ones just like them.
Why the heck would we do this to ourselves??
My Coaching “super powers” allow me to hear, sense, see when clients are sabotaging themselves.
I can tell when you are moving away from getting what you want in life and moving down the self-defeating path of failure again.
I can even sense when you are stuck in these patterns because they have become comfortable to you.
And I can hear you saying, “Why the hell would I do that to myself?” Yes, I know it’s crazy right?
Most of these automatic behaviors and thoughts are so quick and efficient. And before you can even register it, you’ve eaten a whole bag of chips or pressed snooze on the alarm instead of getting up to run.
Ready to STOP the cycle of self-sabotage?
Self-sabotage is what happens when your logical, conscious mind (the side of you that says you need to eat healthily and save money) is at odds with your subconscious mind (the side of you that stress-eats chocolate and goes on online shopping binges).
Self-sabotage involves repeating automatic behaviors or thoughts that keep you away from what you desire MOST in life.
Depending on your past history, and especially if it includes trauma or abuse, your behaviors and thoughts may be even more automatic.
Many times, the way you have been living your life is really out of your awareness until something happens that stops you in your tracks and you say, “WTF am I doing to myself? or “Why does this keep happening to me?”
And that’s where I come in.
Here are your “Action Steps”
Check in with yourself and discover if you have an internal Negative Nelly niggling at you, saying “you can’t”, “you’re not good enough”, or “you don’t have what it takes!”
Or maybe you have a loving Cheering Cathy boosting you to be your best, saying, “You can do anything honey!”
Start to pay attention to the words you use towards yourself and others. Become more aware of how you are feeling after you’ve thought something.
In Coaching lingo, we call this the “Stepping Back” technique.
If you feel that you are too close to the issue, call a friend and have her give you feedback on what you are saying to yourself. You can even call me!! See my link below for a quick chat xo
Many times, my clients will go for a walk, exercise or listen to music to get themselves out of their heads so that they can just BE.
Eventually, your deepest inner wisdom will give you insights as to what you were thinking. You will recall saying something negative or harsh to yourself which produced the feelings of sadness, anger or anxiety.
It’s all about feeling safe, loved and like you belong.
Wondering why you may still be stuck in your pattern of sabotaging yourself?
There is a deeper part of you that is trying to protect you from hurts, pains or failures to keep you safe. We humans need to feel loved and have a sense of belonging in order to thrive.
However, staying safe can also mean staying stuck in the discomfort of your comfort zone and continuing to do the same things over and over.
If this sounds like you, know that I am here to listen, guide you and hold you accountable for whenever you are ready and motivated to change your mindset, habits and patterns.
Schedule your Free 30 Minute Discovery Session if you haven’t already done so.
I always say that you can create whatever it is you want in life, and it all starts inside of you!
Denise xo
