Why Women Get in Their Own Way and How to Stop it Now 

Women often find themselves standing in their own way, blocking themselves from achieving the life they want and deserve. It could be because of societal expectations or even a lack of self-confidence that prevents them from speaking up for what they want, trusting their gut instincts, or taking steps toward fulfilling their dreams.

Despite this self-sabotaging behavior, it is possible to break out of these patterns and learn to take charge of one’s own destiny. By understanding why we do this and developing new habits and beliefs about ourselves, women can start living the life that brings happiness and fulfillment.

Do Nothing

When we are in a hurry, feeling stressed, or overwhelmed by our circumstances, it can be challenging to take the time needed to make thoughtful decisions that will lead us toward our desired outcomes. 

One of the essential steps to getting out of your own way is learning how to slow down. Slowing down allows for more clarity and insight into what actions to take and not to take. 

Taking a few moments each day to breathe deeply, observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment, and practice mindfulness can profoundly reduce stress levels and create space for creative solutions.

Trust Yourself

Women must pay attention to their needs and take charge of their desires. Too often, we are so focused on caring for others that we neglect our own well-being. 

We must learn strategies for recognizing when we feel overwhelmed or undervalued and prioritize taking time to stay healthy and happy. 

Taking the time to check in with ourselves can help us understand what we need mentally and physically.  It allows us to focus on achieving our goals and living a fulfilling life.

Ask yourself if you are feeling:

  • Tired?
  • Hungry?
  • Thirsty?
  • In pain?
  • Mad or glad?
  • Happy or sad?

Learning to trust yourself and your intuition is an essential step in living the life you want. Our bodies are incredibly powerful, sending us signals about what we need and want that can help guide our decisions and actions. By tuning into these signals, we can make choices that bring us joy, satisfaction, and contentment. 

Listening to our inner wisdom gives us the courage to take risks, face fears head-on, and achieve goals we may have previously thought impossible. Anything becomes possible when we learn to trust ourselves on this level!

Stay Present

Getting caught up in our doubts, worries, and fears is too easy. This self-sabotaging behavior prevents us from living a life of joy and fulfillment. 

However, breaking out of these patterns is possible by learning to take charge of one’s destiny. When we do this, we can become stuck in the past, unable to move forward and progress toward our goals.

Staying present and being mindful of the moment can be a powerful tool for helping us to overcome self-doubt. Stop worrying about the past or what might happen in the future.  Instead, recognize that your feelings and experiences are valid and important.

  1. Find a quiet and comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed.
  2. Sit comfortably on a chair or on the floor with your back straight and your hands resting on your thighs.
  3. Take a deep breath through your nose, filling your lungs with air. Hold your breath for a few seconds.
  4. Slowly exhale through your mouth, emptying your lungs completely.
  5. As you exhale, try to release any tension or stress you may be holding in your body, and pay attention to your heart beating, your legs, arms, stomach, and back.
  6. Repeat this deep breathing exercise several times, focusing on the sensation of the air moving in and out of your body and how you feel.
  7. As you continue to breathe deeply, let go of any distracting thoughts or worries and simply be present in the moment.

You can do this breathing exercise for as long as you like, but even a few minutes can help you feel more calm, centered, and present. 

Life can trick you into getting into your own way, but it is not your fault. Following these steps of doing nothing, trusting yourself, and staying present will help you build a life you love.

Are you secretly struggling because you are living for everyone else? Are you ready to draw the line and create a life where you are excited to get out of bed every day? 

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About Denise Morrison

I’m a licensed and certified health care professional with over 30 years experience in healthcare, wellness, fitness, physical therapy, yoga, NLP, TLT, hypnosis and mind-body practices.

During my career I’ve seen too many women struggle with self-doubt and fear leftover from their past, making them stuck in their health, happiness, and success.

This is why it’s my passion to help you discover and release any of your limiting beliefs, old stories, and unconscious obstacles so you can finally know, trust and value yourself and confidently make decisive action to create your most fulfilling life.

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