You may be suffering from self-Neglect syndrome if you are:
Tired all the time
Feeling like you’re on an emotional roller coaster
Experiencing more cravings
Carrying extra weight
Annoyed with people
Frustrated with yourself
Don’t have enough time to do the things you need to do…and want to do?
You are not alone.
This is not a joke! I am here to remind you to take your self-care seriously.
Think about the effects on your precious body and life if you were to continue to neglect yourself. In my practice, I see the manifestations of chronic mental and physical illnesses, diseases, loss of friendships, loss of jobs, and more.
Research shows that our beliefs and behaviors affect our biology so if you keep on this path of putting yourself last, it may not end well for you and your family.
Let me offer you some support.
If you were my client sitting across from me on Zoom (or on the phone), I would ask you these questions.
Are you saying YES when you mean YES; and saying NO when you mean NO?
Do you give away your power to something or someone else and push your own needs, self-worth and boundaries aside?
Allow me to elaborate so you can get a sense of what this looks and feels like.
Take me for example
When the phone is ringing and a certain someone is calling me and I see their name, I start to feel my jaw clench and my breathing stop because I do not want to answer it.
If I neglect my body’s wisdom and distract myself from the screaming voice inside of me saying, “NO, don’t answer it!” and I take the call, I just fall back into the pattern of being submissive and ignoring my boundaries.
So, at that moment, I neglected my true needs, self-worth, and value and put theirs ahead of mine.
Of course, if this was an urgent matter, I would self-assess and know that I would need to take the call as a responsible adult would do.
However, if you know that there are certain people, events, TV shows, social media sites, etc. that will trigger you in any way, you can start to assess if they are truly a “YES” or “NO” in your life.
Usually, they will be a “NO” because they suck your energy, time, and sanity, and you feel bad when you take part in them.
Losing touch with your inner guidance to trust in yourself
So, if you repeatedly ignore your body and its inner wisdom also known as your needs, wants, and desires, you teach yourself that you can’t be trusted. You lose that intimate connection between your inner wisdom because you get stuck in your mind doing all the “shoulds” and “musts” that the world has put upon you.
As I have witnessed with many of my clients, their connection to their very personal, intuitive self gets disconnected and they fill that void, grieve that loss, or numb out any inklings of real feelings by using food, drugs, sex, alcohol, people-pleasing or other forms of self-abuse.
Would you like to know how to stop and reconnect to your inner wisdom?
I invite you to use a tool that I call “Honoring Your “Yes” and Your “No”.
Grab a pen and paper or type this into a note on your phone.
Free write your 10 most important priorities in your life. These are things like sleeping, clean eating, exercise, family time, self-care, religious/spiritual practices, and so on.
Now think about all of the activities that you do each day, and “assess” how each one feels in your body.
- Ask your inner guidance/intuition, “Is this activity in line with my most important priorities?” If it is, you can put a star next to it since that is an example of you “Honoring your “YES.”
- Next, think about all of the activities in your life that you are doing but you want to say “NO” to and cross them out.
- Create a new list of all the activities that you do in your life that will truly honor your 10 most important priorities.
- Continue to monitor your daily activities by self-assessing each thing that you do or person you are speaking to, is honoring your priorities. Are they filling you up with joy, energy, time, and happiness? Or does that activity bring up feelings of dread, sadness, anger, or guilt?
- Decide to choose to say “NO” to those bad feeling activities. And if “they” are disappointed, that reaction is on them.
- Smile and celebrate for choosing to honor your most precious inner wisdom and trust in yourself.
Do you feel more empowered now that you have a tool to help you? As they all say, “Self-care is not selfish”. Taking the time to listen in and honor your true needs and wants is one simple step to take to make BIG changes in your life.
Your mental, physical and emotional wellness advocate,
Do you need more support, guidance, and accountability in working on Honoring Your Self?
Allow me to be your guide, helper, coach, and thinking partner. I’ll be by your side for 6 weeks to walk you through it all. We’ll work on your mindset, emotions, beliefs, self-care, stress management, creating healthy habits, health and fitness, and more.
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